Our Will To Succeed By Sipho Mlambo

OUR WILL TO SUCCEED

There is a drive force behind every action taken and there is always a reason for the actions that we so often seldom take. It is to human belief and perhaps an emotion that has always been viewed to be easy to be proved into a fact that no any set of ordered pairs of events can naturally take place without a true conviction. In most cases we have been moved by circumstances to lately take the actions that we do take. It is true that in life we are bound to our backgrounds and to the circumstances of the environments that we always find ourselves collaging ourselves into. We all have fallen into cases, we have done things not because we wanted to or perhaps we had a constructive reason to, but it was all because of the environment that we found ourselves in. It is not through my belief as most of us suppose that we have done things for no reason at all.

One could be harshly incorrect to utter the words that ‘I just did it…because I just felt like it’. Such a statement would be telling us that though not in direct words that a person has done something not for no apparent reason but because emotions were in actual action, which would also suggest to us that it was because of our emotions that we have found ourselves doing what we have done or what we have found ourselves doing. In all these cases I have come to be convicted and more so convinced that NO FORM OF ACTION CAN TAKE PLACE WITHOUT A WILL. We do have wishes, some things that we wish to do, simple or more erotic things that we do wish that we can do and accomplish. We have wishes to do what we deem appropriate and necessary to accomplish what we dream of.

 Most of us in our youth or the days of our youngness we do have reached points where we have felt like young lions. There are times and moments that we have felt like we were doing something important, we were doing things that the rest of the world was very much incapable of doing. We have felt unstoppable, untouchable, and unreachable and have felt like we can never fall down to the disgraces and faulty of the world of the world below. We once felt like we were the most phenomenal individuals on the whole planet of earth or any other planets that exist besides this one of ours. Due to some reasons we have come to conceive plans within ourselves and for ourselves, plans that we thought successful before their very implementations. We were very sure that our plans would succeed and that whatever that seemed like contenders along our path would never be strong enough to pull us down to ashes. As you read this now, there is also a thought that automatically forms into your mind which probably might be saying to you ‘yes, indeed I have once felt that’. Though you had that emotion a time ago, it just disappeared without even bothering to say goodbye. By now you don’t understand when that kind of fire left you, how and why it left you. You might have tried to look for the fitting answers to those questions and nothing satisfying has come up so far. Because of this you probably have stopped looking for the answers and you have, because disappointments have taken laziness to a whole level by means of losing interest in things that have once seemed to matter much to you.

You have become invalid without reason or cause and have become useless to the purpose of your life and you are now a fraction that can’t be turned into a decimal because of how you are now irrelevant to the dreams that you once had. Ask yourself this fair question that does not discriminate “why are you still living your life the way you have been doing without any positive results?” When one starts to have these whole plans, for the first few days that follow after the discovery of what you might have discovered, you usually felt like you are a bomb that is a second away from exploding. The reality is that you as a person had these ideas of how you were going to do some things and how possibly you were going to change your life and “those who are surrounding you”, right? The issue is you had plans but you didn’t have any action plan. It is the same as having a journey prepared for you and you become excited to embark on such a journey but you create no plans of how you will go on that journey.

You come with something that you are excited about doing but you have no plan on how to do it. You end up having no will to be able to continuously continue to do what you intended on doing. On our journey to succeed we often don’t carry with us enough will to continue with such a journey. We can have many things that we need to do but without the will to do so, those things can never be anything worthy of pursuit. In a Thesaurus: English (U.S) dictionary, a will is defined as determination, resolve, willpower, motivation, spirit, force, strength of character and self-control.

The first word in the explanation says determination which refers to having the strength of mind, having a form of willpower, resolving your whole attitude to do a certain course, moving forward with a purpose and also having a fortitude and grit. The word in a sense also means to keep yourself tied to the course that you have committed yourself to. Our will to succeed should be based not upon dreams and wishes that are usually deemed to be important by other people but should be based upon self-conviction, other than the dreams that we ourselves have given birth too.

We can’t find the will to continue to work based on someone else’s idea, but it is a sure promise that if the things that we determine ourselves to do are things that we have conceived ourselves then in that, we find courage knowing that its only us who can make our dreams a reality. If we can just come up with ideas that we are willing to continue with as long as we are excited, when that excitement disappears like smoke, the same plans also come to nothing. It is not momentary excitement that lead into the depths of our dreams but rather having a will to do so and that will can only come through having careful and often analyzed reasons of why should such a thing be carried.

The mistake that most of us have made is to be excited about something that we only have found the necessity to see the positive side but neglect to the view the negative side. Often the scale has always gone to the negative side rather than the positive. We are only fascinated for a few days if no hours and that can never bring us the best of us. It is also vital to know that disappointments are part of the journey and without such we can run a million miles and never come back with a single lesson learned along the way. The will comes after finding what we love to do, when we want to do it, how we love to do it, to whom we would like to do it for and the most important one  of all is why we do those and the very reason of why should we do it. There is a huge difference between loving to do something and why should we actually do what we love. Most of us have always been comfortable to answer the question for whom to do things. You may do it for your child, your parent, your friend or your partner. There will also come the question of why would or should you do it for those people? Is it worth it?

We have done some things to perhaps try to fix some damaged or broken relationships. We have also done some things to try to impress certain individuals who we think that we can’t live to survive without their approval. As we start with some form of appreciation from some of those people in some cases, we find a reason on why to continue on it. As we go on with forever limited compliments we also tend to slow down in progress and ultimately might end up stopping the whole thing if we think that we are not being thanked enough. We must learn to do things to improve ourselves first and then come back to assist others who may have been left along the way. Our will can become strong if we see that what we are doing is something that is working to our benefit and advantage and is also something that will benefit us even for the future forward…the future to come. We all can talk about what we want to archive and how rich we are going to be but it’s not all of us who actually get to have those things realized.

We want to see change happening around us and we want to see it now! We can dream about change that can never come and we can have wishes that can never come true but if we do have a will to continue and go the long and hard way in life, then we can be sure that our will can help us. We must remember that the will of a person is associated with desire and the desire of the humankind is to do what’s nice, simple and easy. We give in too easy to the desire of the sinful nature or to things that bring momentary joy and satisfaction and these instant joy messengers can later on come back and remind us of how quickly we became seduced to the desire to do things that we were not supposed to do. We are well aware that these things that we do for moments only help us for that moment and they usually waste our time and the same time that we waste having our will controlled by wrong life motions is the time that we should be wasting on doing things that are constructive and for the future benefit.

Don’t take this to be light, simple and out of substance but understand that even that which we carry within ourselves is capable of carrying its own vendettas  and our will can be bend over to things of useless nature. It is hard to have our will bend and fully focused on things that we desire to see happening especially on things that we can start to see their fruits years from now. We can bend our will to attend a party, disrespect parents, cheat on our partners, smoke drugs and find reasons to all that is wrong in the eyes of our sober minds, loved ones and the witnesses of nature itself. Just imagine these two scenarios:

1). “You are going to a party and you very excited. The party is considered high class and people are wearing top trendy, new, fashionable and expensive clothes and fancy shoes. You are not working and the clothes that you are wearing have come to you in terms of the assistance of friends. You are carrying a box of booze and your nose is white with the smoke of cigarettes”.

2). “You are at a school and are attending mentoring and motivational tycoons of wealth “boring” classes. You are seated at a chair and listening to top entrepreneurs and multibillionaires telling you tips to be successful and what they did to get to where they are and the things that you had to pass through to get to where they are now. They are telling you with a guarantee that with a will bend towards the long term goals and determination, nothing is impossible”.

These two cases carry scenarios that are very sensitive as far as the will of one is concerned. There is a choice that many in nowadays would run for and there is another one that only those considered to be “boring” can be expected to choose. You can choose case no 1 and spend a single day with usually directionless friends and waste time that you cannot buy from any shop in the world. Or you can choose case no 2 and be boring now and be able to spend the rest of your life attending as many parties as possible while wearing designer items from top to bottom. That will be eating the fruits of the labor and the WILL that you would have managed “not easily so” to bend over and control it to do what’s beneficial. You can be famous for one day at someone’s vicinity or you can choose to be the slave of today and the king of the future that is soon to come.

Our will should mature to be controlled over the other side to succeed. Our will to succeed should bind us together with the needed determination that comes through motivation. Our will should be greater than any form of insecurities, fear and emotional instabilities. A review on the backgrounds and our places of origin has over the years proved to be a great of motivation. It is true that indeed a will needs motivation because without motivation, that will cease to exit. Motivation is defined as an incentive, it’s a form of inspiration, a drive, it is enthusiasm, impetus, stimulus, and it’s a spur, a drive force and also an impulse. The word of attention should be inspiration, which is to try and get you inspired, to be motivated. Motivation allows our will to follow the path of dedication, it keeps us moving, provides us with a reason to keep on moving and the will that we do carry in us can help to take us all the way even in the paths of difficulty. Getting to have our will to do things that are hard and beneficial is hard and doesn’t always put us at easy but it does give us emotional security and stability. It is important for you as a person to have a will to succeed, a will to do much more than what our families have ever done.

 We should have an undying will to accomplish what has never been accomplished before, it can never be easy but it sure is very simple. It takes a lot of what we have and more. All it requires is to have faith that can help us to believe that the journey that we have started on and the same that we hope on embarking is a journey for life and though challenges are there, it shall never fail. It takes faith to think of the completion of something that we already have in the middle of the circle of a lot of discouragements. From this point going on, start to do things to impress yourself first then if others are also impressed with what you are doing, then its fine. There is no true satisfaction in doing things for the joy of others rather than your own personal growth first. First you must have that will, from there you must know what you want to do, how you are going to do it, where and when you are going to do it.

What is going to provide a lot of advantage and strength to your will is in knowing why you are going to do what you plan on doing, why are you willing so much to do it. In your whole family no one has ever completed university and has got a proper job or even earning a good or a salary at all. You have been living in nothing but tattered shacks since you were born. Your great grand mother and father died in digesting poverty, the same went for your father. Your mother is aging like a dying natural disaster and your brothers and sisters wake up every morning to nothing walking like crazy people in the hood. You have that dream to study hard, get a bursary and become a lawyer and build your own law firm. You want to invest and start a few enterprises of your own. You want to build your family a mansion and build yourself a penthouse and wear the best items ever. You want to drive expensive cars and jets and help orphans and old aged people. You want to build your own heaven whilst on earth. You have spoken to others about this, perhaps even your family members and they have told you to keep dreaming because that’s what you are good at. You have been discouraged and gave up because you think it’s worthless. You must not give up when you still have something.

 As long as you are still alive and have breath in you and you are functioning normally, you still have a 100% chance to archive your dreams. You must tell yourself and know that WHERE THERE IS A WILL THERE IS DEFINITELY A WAY. You must have that defiant spirit and once that’s that then and only then will you be able to hear and listen to the power of the will that each and every one of us carries within us. I have come to believe and I think you should too, that one common will that we share is the will to succeed, this one is very common and we all want to succeed.

Despite how we can all define success, we all have the will to succeed. Find yours and get committed while believing that you can do it, now that’s the power of a human will. You must find yours, nature it to be strong And START ACTING NOW!!